A Father's Mind #1
I’m Going to Be a Father?!
“Will my dreams ever come true?”
In the first week of April 2020, my girlfriend at the time discovered she was pregnant. You know how life hits, and you reflect back to how you got yourself into this situation. I realized this is the result of our spring break/ bae-cation. It was a blast, but it seems our fun to ourselves has come to a possible end. Thinking my life is over, I will have to put a pause on everything I have going for myself. My masters pursuit, dreams, or travel. Not like the inevitable COVID-19 crisis would allow for much freedom in the future anyways. But was my life truly over?
No, after my negative thoughts passed and reality had finished its submissive hold on me. I knew what I needed to do, PREPARE. As a man, 23 years old with a unsustainable job and a bright career path. I knew I had 9 months to get ready: mentally, financially, and spiritually prepare for my possible boy or girl. Blessed to know what I wanted to do with my life and comfortable with the woman tasked as the mother of my child comforted my spirit enough to know, we got this. It is just another journey and everything I have ever dreamed of is still possible. I just have additional fuel to my flame to motivate me to give more than I’ve ever given before.
To be continued…
A Fathers Mind #1 Binky
Fatherhood Inspiring My Dreams
Fatherhood has not hindered my dreams, it’s simply made me more passionate about my work. My son is huge part of my life now and I have always wanted to be a comic artist as a child. So I decided to practice my digital art skills and prepare for my graphic novel with short comics about my fatherhood experiences. The Binky plays a vital role in the emotional well being of my son. Without it he can be a handful, especially when he is sleepy. I am learning that babies HATE going to sleep, because they love to be in the moment. With the binky he often settles himself so he can comfortably fall asleep.
One of the first things the doctors told us, when my son was first born was that babies use a lot of energy sucking and swallowing during nursing. The binky simulates this method, enough that the little guy finally goes to sleep during his gibbering rant. Of course he always knocks it out of his mouth though. Lucky me right? Of course he will get rid of the only thing that keeps him calm so he can go immediately back to screaming at the top of his lungs. That’s what the swaddle is for.